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Where do you go in your mind in January?

Downsizing

Ran out

I ran out of things to say. Going to stick to pictures for a while.

Going on a Guilt Trip

Funny how only mothers are riddled with guilt and accused of guilt tripping. I've been afflicted by the first and "guilty" of the second, I guess... While I am not a big fan of "guilt trips", I have been "guilty" of reminding my children of how their actions might negatively affect someone else, somehow. However, I am starting to wonder why it is moms who are so famous for this. Is it because they are the ones who are assigned the task (more often than not) of  nurturing perspective taking in their kids? I get that "explaining consequences" can be misused.  I know what it feels like when I have been guilt tripped and when I have guilt tripped someone else. But it doesn't happen that often (thank goodness!), does it? We fear being accused of it, but maybe just maybe so called "guilt tripping" is mislabelled.  Maybe instead of "guilt trip" we should replace it with teaching kids empathy, helping kids th

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Cradling is an active verb

 Parents of children who are older than 10 years old like me may think that cradling is no longer part of the job description.... ...but it very much is.  As our kids learn to walk away from us and grow past us, we cradle them with carefully chosen words, holding our bodies just so so that we can absorb the scariness of a dream or by sweeping away yesterday's mess so today's can be born. The other day, my mom asked me lovingly.  "When was the last time you went for a swim? You should go."  Her cradling work continues.