Perspective Taking

I have had the pleasure of hanging out with my son all week one-on-one. I really thought I knew him last weekend. By this weekend, my knowledge had deepened and compounded.

Having all that extra, not filtered through sibling/father time has yielded me more knowledge about

when he will jump, when he will cry, when he will ask for milk, when he'll explain something.

Now I know him a little better.

I know that he does not like to be rushed.

He likes to be cuddled a lot more than I realized.

He really likes to plan how to build a lot of things.

I was making so many assumptions based on partial and biased information before last weekend.

"Perspective taking- Perceiving physical, social or emotional situations from a point of view other than one's own." (education.com)

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